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Sunday, October 11, 2009

不快樂

不快樂不在於用高的道德標準對自己與對別人(宗教人的道德標準如此之高,卻活得平靜自在),不快樂是因為對人的偏執,將他人的缺點無限上綱,尤其當與這人有競爭、比較、利害關係時,所有的目光就會集中在那個人的缺點上,然後用盡想像說他/她有多壞。

不快樂是因為看不見關係事件裡自己要負的責任,看不見自己也是事件因果的一部分,而一味指責他人的傷害。

不快樂是來自於對人缺乏信任,害怕付出情感,沒有與人有愛的互動。

不快樂是因為將快樂倚靠在無常的人事物上,以為只要獲得一段關係、別人的認可,或是累積名聲財富就可以快樂,然而,一來這些事是多變不穩定的,二來是獲得這些事的欲望一起,永遠無法滿足,好還要更好。

快樂來自於洞悉自己的偏執,來自於訓練平常心看待是非好壞;來自於深刻內省與寬恕他人;來自於付出及與人聯結,來自於對人的善念;來自於體認人事無常;來自於滿足珍惜當下所擁有。

2 comments:

Hsu said...

to our belief, the happiness comes from the close relationship with the only God. The unhappiness not just caring too much about others, but focusing too much on ourselves instead of loving others enough. All the sins and unhappiness come from the separation with God and live our life in a self-center way. That's why we need to learn to be humble before God and Jesus is the perfect example how we can live our life. The more we know God, the more we know how sinful and weak we are. Those faithful Christians they sincerely don't think they're perfect but they are nothing without God's love and forgiveness, just learn to obey and rely on Him only.

It's kind of different from other religions that we can reach everything or perfect inner peace by our own effort. We can never be good or have peace if we don't have relationship with Jesus.

It's not an easy process to find the meaning of life but it's interesting and important. Just my 2 cents from what we believe, no other meanings at all.

蜻蜓 said...

shsien:

謝謝妳的分享.
對於追求平靜與快樂
每種宗教有不同的邏輯與方法
我很高興聽到妳的方享
選擇自己能接受的方式 適合自己的方式
就是好方法
我覺得妳已找到自己的信仰
妳是被祝福的人